Laughter is good for the soul.

Laughter is good for the soul.

“Don’t trust people who don’t laugh.” – Maya Angelou.

Always remember: You are Fearfully, Wonderfully and “Beautifully mane.”

3 easy to make Natural Deep Conditioners for Natural hair

3 easy to make Natural Deep Conditioners for Natural hair

Probably gonna try one of these recipes this weekend. My hair is in dire need of a good deep conditioner and restoration! 

What are your thoughts? Share them below!

Always remember: You are Fearfully, Wonderfully and “Beautifully mane.”

Curly vs. Kinky: Which would YOU prefer?

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This appears to be a sensitive topic amongst the natural hair community, and I can totally see why. There is alot of talk and debate surrounding the two hair categories.

Do you think that one curl type is preferred over the other when it comes to the standard of beauty in the black community? While dating? While posting pictures on Instagram, waiting to get a whole bunch of likes?

So a couple days ago, I saw Taren Guy, YouTuber, Owner and CEO of Luv and Learn your Hair, receive a very angry comment on one of her photos regarding her “loose curl patterned long hair” and how she is considered more privileged due to her curlier hair texture.

 

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…Yeah. Somebody’s mad.

Now you guys know me. I see these crazy, controversial posts and comments and it always gets my mind RACING.

Lately, I find that theres alot of debate and discussion amongst the natural hair community on the difference between curly hair and kinky hair and why it matters. Some people prefer the perfect “curl”, or may have some biases in regard to achieving that perfect curl. There are people who love to embrace their “kinky” hair, and others who get OH SO OFFENDED when you call their hair kinky. Personally, I think all hair is beautiful and no I am not trying to be oh so politically correct. We have to get to a place where we love our hair, and we are not ashamed of how it sprouts, whether its coily, wavy, or whatever.

But my thoughts are as such: Whats is the distinction between the two? Are the light skinned, looser curl patterned naturalista’s more privileged than the Type 4 naturals? Why is there so much talk about it, and so much shade? ***Palm trees.

Now, from an informational, technical standpoint, the difference between the two textures is basically, curly hair is simply a spiral or a wave, while kinky hair is an actual twist in which the hair strands turn around itself.

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You can find more information on blackgirllonghair.com. 

Now when I first began my natural hair journey, I have to be honest. THE ONLY VLOGGERS I WATCHED WERE THE ONES WITH THE LOOSER CURL PATTERN. No one else. There, I said it. (Please don’t come after me in the comment section LOL)

It wasn’t that I didn’t love my “kinkier”, 4a texture or wanted to explore it. It was simply that I was trying to get my hair to look like someone elses. I was insecure during the beginning stages of my natural hair journey. I wanted it to be curly. I wanted it to be defined. Shoot, I was a new natural and I just wanted my hair to look perfect.

A couple months into my natural hair journey, I began to follow different naturalista’s on Instagram, Twitter and YouTube and noticed how BEAUTIFUL the kinkier textures were. Naturalista’s such as Strawberricurls, Mahogany Curls who is now a Natural Hair expert for Essence magazine and all these beautiful women who embrace their different textures. I started to discover that some people have different curl patterns and textures on one head, while others have the same curl pattern and texture, yet cannot wear different styles, or their hair may break easily. All these sudden realizations and discoveries began to come to the forefront and I am like WHOA. Wait, your natural hair isn’t supposed to be perfect? Say what? Thank God. Now I can finally breathe. LOL

I say all this to say, all hair textures and patterns are indeed beautiful. Please excuse the cliche, but they are.

When we get to a place in our natural hair journey in which we truly embrace that aspect of our natural hair journey, we will be some bad mama jamas. Taking over the world, one “curl” or “kink” at a time.

Hope you found this interesting and of benefit! If you guys have any comments, thoughts, or any ideas of what I should post next, please share your comments below. Make sure to subscribe via email if you haven’t already! 🙂

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Always remember: You are Fearfully, Wonderfully and “Beautifully mane.”

 

My wash regimen!

My alarms rings. Its 10:00 am, on a Saturday. I went out last night, I am tired and groggy. I worked a long 40 hour week, and not to mention had life obligations in between. I am EXHAUSTED. But hey, this hair ain’t gonna wash itself, right?

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Yeah, my hair is looking all types of cray. Gotta get to it!

Now, my wash regimen is fairly simple. I am a 4a to 4b curl type, with short – medium length hair. I have shrinkage, but I would say its about 60%. I know alot of natural’s with serious shrinkage, like 85% to 90% perfect, but mine is not that severe. Shout out to the shrinkage curly girls though! Yall rock!

Now before I shampoo, I make sure I always pre-poo. (you can check out my post “To pre-poo or not to pre-poo” here where I give my tips on how to effectively condition your hair before shampooing:

I typically use three products: Trader Joe’s Aloe Vera gel, olive oil or coconut oil as a sealant and my favorite leave in conditioner: Cantu Shea Butter leave in repair deep conditioner.

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I start with the aloe vera gel first. Aloe Vera gel is great because it has both emollient and moisturizing properties, meaning that it smoothes the cuticle surface and also attracts and seals in moisture. Its like, 3 bucks at Trader Joe’s and it works like a charm. There are some naturalista’s out there who SWEAR by using this gel as a styling product, but it honestly just depends on how strong of a hold you would like for your curls.

Aloe Vera gel can also provide mild hold, but if you are looking for more of a SIGNIFICANT curl retention based on application, aloe vera gel might not be the best way to go. Great product, though! I follow up with olive oil, making sure its extra virgin, and apply it to my strands and then apply one of my favorite products, the Cantu Shea Butter leave in deep conditioner.

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Love this stuff.

Now I do not section my hair when pre-pooing; simply because you are going to rinse out your mixture and detangle anyway. Might as well make it easy, right? 🙂

I hop in the shower with the mixture in my hair, and begin to rinse. I rinse the mixture out with lukewarm water, simply because I do not want to remove the moisture I just put into my hair. I shampooed my hair using Shea Moisture’s Curl and Shine Shampoo.

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This shampoo is great. It suds a bit, yet does not leave my hair feeling dry or brittle at all. It felt very moisturized. This shampoo is designed for naturals with thick, curly hair and its amazing! Its main ingredients are coconut oil, silk protein and neem oil and works greatly to:

  • Anti-Frizz, Moisture & Shine
  • Natural & Certified Organic Ingredients
  • Sulfate Free & Color Safe

After I washed and gave myself a nice scalp massage, I rinsed my hair with lukewarm water.

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All rinsed out! Now time to section my hair and detangle. I separated my hair into six big sections, applied more of the Cantu Shea Butter leave in and detangled with a paddle brush. The process is fairly simple; there are a few tricks you can use to get the most out of your detangling session. Which, in turn, will require another post. LOL, Ill get to that this weekend for you guys. 🙂

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Much better. Haha.

After I am all shampooed, conditioned, rinsed out and detangled, I diffuse my hair. I decided to diffuse since I wanted to wear a wash and go, but I don’t really like to air dry. Its all about preference in this case; diffusing saves me alot of time, since it only takes about 15 minutes. I typically diffuse on a cool heat setting, and a low speed so I am not putting too much pressure or heat on my hair. Wanna always be safe. After I diffuse, depending on how big I want to wear my hair, I will use a pick accordingly. This day I just wanted to keep it simple, curly and cute.

Here are the results! Had a coffee date in Downtown Royal Oak this weekend, paired with some shopping. Good times!

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Wash regimens are never easy things to master. It takes alot of time, patience and you have to really listen to your hair. I like to say that our hair talks to us. We have a relationship with it. It will let us know whether or not a product is too harsh, or we should stray away from certain ingredients or hard water. Now, it will still do its own thing! We don’t have too much control, especially when it comes to shrinkage. But as long as we get to know our hair, and cater to it and take care of it, it will be all good. 🙂

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What is your wash routine, ladies? How do you like to wear your wash and gos, or do you prefer twist outs and bantu knots? Share your thoughts and comments below!

Also: I have a YouTube Channel! Woot Woot. Bare with me, I only have like two videos up LOL, But I am going to try to post more, as well as update my page. Needs a clean up. Subscribe to my channel here and enjoy!

Always remember: You are Fearfully, Wonderfully and “Beautifully mane.”