Got Jesus?

Got Jesus?

Represented my daddy in Downtown Detroit this past week for a ball game. Tigers vs. Kansas City Royals. Unfortunately we lost lol but hey! A christian still gotta rep right? 😉

Always remember: You are Fearfully, Wonderfully and “Beautifully mane.”

Second day hair or nah?

Second day hair or nah?

Happy Monday, naturalista’s!

My Monday started off with waking up this morning and realizing how defined my curls were after rocking a wash and go yesterday. I looked and the mirror and my jaw dropped lol like, whoa! So awesome.

Have you ever had an aha moment during your natural hair journey? Currently? Share your thoughts, comments and stories below!

Always remember: You are Fearfully, Wonderfully and “Beautifully mane.”

Curly vs. Kinky: Which would YOU prefer?

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This appears to be a sensitive topic amongst the natural hair community, and I can totally see why. There is alot of talk and debate surrounding the two hair categories.

Do you think that one curl type is preferred over the other when it comes to the standard of beauty in the black community? While dating? While posting pictures on Instagram, waiting to get a whole bunch of likes?

So a couple days ago, I saw Taren Guy, YouTuber, Owner and CEO of Luv and Learn your Hair, receive a very angry comment on one of her photos regarding her “loose curl patterned long hair” and how she is considered more privileged due to her curlier hair texture.

 

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…Yeah. Somebody’s mad.

Now you guys know me. I see these crazy, controversial posts and comments and it always gets my mind RACING.

Lately, I find that theres alot of debate and discussion amongst the natural hair community on the difference between curly hair and kinky hair and why it matters. Some people prefer the perfect “curl”, or may have some biases in regard to achieving that perfect curl. There are people who love to embrace their “kinky” hair, and others who get OH SO OFFENDED when you call their hair kinky. Personally, I think all hair is beautiful and no I am not trying to be oh so politically correct. We have to get to a place where we love our hair, and we are not ashamed of how it sprouts, whether its coily, wavy, or whatever.

But my thoughts are as such: Whats is the distinction between the two? Are the light skinned, looser curl patterned naturalista’s more privileged than the Type 4 naturals? Why is there so much talk about it, and so much shade? ***Palm trees.

Now, from an informational, technical standpoint, the difference between the two textures is basically, curly hair is simply a spiral or a wave, while kinky hair is an actual twist in which the hair strands turn around itself.

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You can find more information on blackgirllonghair.com. 

Now when I first began my natural hair journey, I have to be honest. THE ONLY VLOGGERS I WATCHED WERE THE ONES WITH THE LOOSER CURL PATTERN. No one else. There, I said it. (Please don’t come after me in the comment section LOL)

It wasn’t that I didn’t love my “kinkier”, 4a texture or wanted to explore it. It was simply that I was trying to get my hair to look like someone elses. I was insecure during the beginning stages of my natural hair journey. I wanted it to be curly. I wanted it to be defined. Shoot, I was a new natural and I just wanted my hair to look perfect.

A couple months into my natural hair journey, I began to follow different naturalista’s on Instagram, Twitter and YouTube and noticed how BEAUTIFUL the kinkier textures were. Naturalista’s such as Strawberricurls, Mahogany Curls who is now a Natural Hair expert for Essence magazine and all these beautiful women who embrace their different textures. I started to discover that some people have different curl patterns and textures on one head, while others have the same curl pattern and texture, yet cannot wear different styles, or their hair may break easily. All these sudden realizations and discoveries began to come to the forefront and I am like WHOA. Wait, your natural hair isn’t supposed to be perfect? Say what? Thank God. Now I can finally breathe. LOL

I say all this to say, all hair textures and patterns are indeed beautiful. Please excuse the cliche, but they are.

When we get to a place in our natural hair journey in which we truly embrace that aspect of our natural hair journey, we will be some bad mama jamas. Taking over the world, one “curl” or “kink” at a time.

Hope you found this interesting and of benefit! If you guys have any comments, thoughts, or any ideas of what I should post next, please share your comments below. Make sure to subscribe via email if you haven’t already! 🙂

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Always remember: You are Fearfully, Wonderfully and “Beautifully mane.”

 

My wash regimen!

My alarms rings. Its 10:00 am, on a Saturday. I went out last night, I am tired and groggy. I worked a long 40 hour week, and not to mention had life obligations in between. I am EXHAUSTED. But hey, this hair ain’t gonna wash itself, right?

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Yeah, my hair is looking all types of cray. Gotta get to it!

Now, my wash regimen is fairly simple. I am a 4a to 4b curl type, with short – medium length hair. I have shrinkage, but I would say its about 60%. I know alot of natural’s with serious shrinkage, like 85% to 90% perfect, but mine is not that severe. Shout out to the shrinkage curly girls though! Yall rock!

Now before I shampoo, I make sure I always pre-poo. (you can check out my post “To pre-poo or not to pre-poo” here where I give my tips on how to effectively condition your hair before shampooing:

I typically use three products: Trader Joe’s Aloe Vera gel, olive oil or coconut oil as a sealant and my favorite leave in conditioner: Cantu Shea Butter leave in repair deep conditioner.

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I start with the aloe vera gel first. Aloe Vera gel is great because it has both emollient and moisturizing properties, meaning that it smoothes the cuticle surface and also attracts and seals in moisture. Its like, 3 bucks at Trader Joe’s and it works like a charm. There are some naturalista’s out there who SWEAR by using this gel as a styling product, but it honestly just depends on how strong of a hold you would like for your curls.

Aloe Vera gel can also provide mild hold, but if you are looking for more of a SIGNIFICANT curl retention based on application, aloe vera gel might not be the best way to go. Great product, though! I follow up with olive oil, making sure its extra virgin, and apply it to my strands and then apply one of my favorite products, the Cantu Shea Butter leave in deep conditioner.

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Love this stuff.

Now I do not section my hair when pre-pooing; simply because you are going to rinse out your mixture and detangle anyway. Might as well make it easy, right? 🙂

I hop in the shower with the mixture in my hair, and begin to rinse. I rinse the mixture out with lukewarm water, simply because I do not want to remove the moisture I just put into my hair. I shampooed my hair using Shea Moisture’s Curl and Shine Shampoo.

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This shampoo is great. It suds a bit, yet does not leave my hair feeling dry or brittle at all. It felt very moisturized. This shampoo is designed for naturals with thick, curly hair and its amazing! Its main ingredients are coconut oil, silk protein and neem oil and works greatly to:

  • Anti-Frizz, Moisture & Shine
  • Natural & Certified Organic Ingredients
  • Sulfate Free & Color Safe

After I washed and gave myself a nice scalp massage, I rinsed my hair with lukewarm water.

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All rinsed out! Now time to section my hair and detangle. I separated my hair into six big sections, applied more of the Cantu Shea Butter leave in and detangled with a paddle brush. The process is fairly simple; there are a few tricks you can use to get the most out of your detangling session. Which, in turn, will require another post. LOL, Ill get to that this weekend for you guys. 🙂

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Much better. Haha.

After I am all shampooed, conditioned, rinsed out and detangled, I diffuse my hair. I decided to diffuse since I wanted to wear a wash and go, but I don’t really like to air dry. Its all about preference in this case; diffusing saves me alot of time, since it only takes about 15 minutes. I typically diffuse on a cool heat setting, and a low speed so I am not putting too much pressure or heat on my hair. Wanna always be safe. After I diffuse, depending on how big I want to wear my hair, I will use a pick accordingly. This day I just wanted to keep it simple, curly and cute.

Here are the results! Had a coffee date in Downtown Royal Oak this weekend, paired with some shopping. Good times!

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Wash regimens are never easy things to master. It takes alot of time, patience and you have to really listen to your hair. I like to say that our hair talks to us. We have a relationship with it. It will let us know whether or not a product is too harsh, or we should stray away from certain ingredients or hard water. Now, it will still do its own thing! We don’t have too much control, especially when it comes to shrinkage. But as long as we get to know our hair, and cater to it and take care of it, it will be all good. 🙂

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What is your wash routine, ladies? How do you like to wear your wash and gos, or do you prefer twist outs and bantu knots? Share your thoughts and comments below!

Also: I have a YouTube Channel! Woot Woot. Bare with me, I only have like two videos up LOL, But I am going to try to post more, as well as update my page. Needs a clean up. Subscribe to my channel here and enjoy!

Always remember: You are Fearfully, Wonderfully and “Beautifully mane.”

Is my natural hair pretty enough?

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Does wearing our hair in its natural state come with insecurities? Does it make us feel less than a woman, or too bold? Do we like wearing it? Do we feel comfortable and CONFIDENT wearing it, whether its in a twist out or a massive fro’? Do we care if our man likes it? If our job likes it?

Whats the deal with all this… hair?

I was on a double date a couple weeks ago with a good friend of mine and her boyfriend, and the topic of natural hair came up. Now, my friend and I are both naturalista’s and loving it, so of course when the boys decided to bring this up, our antenna’s went up. “You know, I just think Natural Hair looks very… natural. Sometimes it can look unkept” says her boyfriend. Humph.

“Yes, I met Lizz when she had her hair straight. Thats how she got me.” said my date. Humphhhhhh.

Now, they of course were being super playful… but you know how the saying goes. Theres always a little bit of truth to every “JK.”

No honestly…My friend and I of course laughed it off. Guys were just being guys, being silly. No big deal. But the question popped into my head of, not only do guys REALLY like natural hair, but is my natural hair pretty enough? Is it curly enough? Is it beautiful enough?

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(my three day old wash and go) – kinks and all! 😉

I think as naturals, its “natural” for us to desire another hair type, or curl type or pattern. For me, when I first started my natural hair journey, I wanted to be a 3c curl type so bad. I adored the loose curls and perfectly defined coils that I thought every natural just HAD to have. I didn’t understand why, when I would do my wash and go’s, they didn’t look very curly, or why my curl pattern would be different in different parts of my hair.

I thought every single strand, curl and coil on my head had to be perfect.

I didn’t understand why, when I used certain hair products that were supposed to have “strong hold” or give me “perfect curls”, that I wasn’t looking like these curly girls. And the answer was simple… their hair is not my hair. And my hair is not theirs.

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Me this past weekend on my wash day! Tried some new products. Will do a wash regimen post later this week. 🙂

Wearing your hair in its natural state isn’t some new phenomenon, or a “new” way to wear your hair. Its how you were born. You don’t “go natural”… you “return” to natural.

Every journey, regardless of what type of journey whether it has to do with weight loss, or overall improving your performance at a certain task or lifestyle, will include ups and downs. It will include kinks, that you may have to work out (excuse the pun) and insecurities and differences you have to overcome. But thats what makes it a journey. And a beautiful one at that.

This post is not some step by step method to overcoming insecurities, or how to make your natural hair prettier… but just to give us some encouragement and inspiration! STOP TRYING TO MAKE YOUR HAIR LOOK LIKE EVERYONE ELSES. Trust me, there is no product out there that will do such. Your hair is your hair, and for that reason, you should love it and love yourself.

What do you love about your natural hair? What makes it stand out, and set apart from other naturalista’s?

Share your thoughts and comments below!

Always remember: You are Fearfully, Wonderfully and “Beautifully mane.”

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