Is my natural hair pretty enough?

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Does wearing our hair in its natural state come with insecurities? Does it make us feel less than a woman, or too bold? Do we like wearing it? Do we feel comfortable and CONFIDENT wearing it, whether its in a twist out or a massive fro’? Do we care if our man likes it? If our job likes it?

Whats the deal with all this… hair?

I was on a double date a couple weeks ago with a good friend of mine and her boyfriend, and the topic of natural hair came up. Now, my friend and I are both naturalista’s and loving it, so of course when the boys decided to bring this up, our antenna’s went up. “You know, I just think Natural Hair looks very… natural. Sometimes it can look unkept” says her boyfriend. Humph.

“Yes, I met Lizz when she had her hair straight. Thats how she got me.” said my date. Humphhhhhh.

Now, they of course were being super playful… but you know how the saying goes. Theres always a little bit of truth to every “JK.”

No honestly…My friend and I of course laughed it off. Guys were just being guys, being silly. No big deal. But the question popped into my head of, not only do guys REALLY like natural hair, but is my natural hair pretty enough? Is it curly enough? Is it beautiful enough?

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(my three day old wash and go) – kinks and all! 😉

I think as naturals, its “natural” for us to desire another hair type, or curl type or pattern. For me, when I first started my natural hair journey, I wanted to be a 3c curl type so bad. I adored the loose curls and perfectly defined coils that I thought every natural just HAD to have. I didn’t understand why, when I would do my wash and go’s, they didn’t look very curly, or why my curl pattern would be different in different parts of my hair.

I thought every single strand, curl and coil on my head had to be perfect.

I didn’t understand why, when I used certain hair products that were supposed to have “strong hold” or give me “perfect curls”, that I wasn’t looking like these curly girls. And the answer was simple… their hair is not my hair. And my hair is not theirs.

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Me this past weekend on my wash day! Tried some new products. Will do a wash regimen post later this week. 🙂

Wearing your hair in its natural state isn’t some new phenomenon, or a “new” way to wear your hair. Its how you were born. You don’t “go natural”… you “return” to natural.

Every journey, regardless of what type of journey whether it has to do with weight loss, or overall improving your performance at a certain task or lifestyle, will include ups and downs. It will include kinks, that you may have to work out (excuse the pun) and insecurities and differences you have to overcome. But thats what makes it a journey. And a beautiful one at that.

This post is not some step by step method to overcoming insecurities, or how to make your natural hair prettier… but just to give us some encouragement and inspiration! STOP TRYING TO MAKE YOUR HAIR LOOK LIKE EVERYONE ELSES. Trust me, there is no product out there that will do such. Your hair is your hair, and for that reason, you should love it and love yourself.

What do you love about your natural hair? What makes it stand out, and set apart from other naturalista’s?

Share your thoughts and comments below!

Always remember: You are Fearfully, Wonderfully and “Beautifully mane.”

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“I tried to negotiate with God”: Lupita prayed for lighter skin as a child

This woman is gorgeous, and is representing for all of us black women out there. She gave a speech at Essence’s Black Women in Hollywood Luncheon in which she stated: “I remember a time when I too felt unbeautiful. I put on the TV and only saw pale skin, I got teased and taunted about my night-shaded skin. And my one prayer to God, the miracle worker, was that I would wake up lighter-skinned.”

Man…thats deep. Skin deep. Have you ever felt like Lupita? Have you ever wanted either lighter skin, or longer, less kinkier hair in order to feel more beautiful as a woman? How did you overcome that barrier? Share your thoughts and comments below!

Always remember: You are Fearfully, Wonderfully and “Beautifully mane.”

Notice the change in my curl pattern!

Heres a “curl pattern” before and after picture after removing my sew in.

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After 

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Check out my co-worker photo bombing in the background! 

I am LOVING my curls today. What do you think, naturals? 

Share your comments and thoughts below!

Always remember: You are Fearfully, Wonderfully and “Beautifully mane.”

Do you know your porosity level?

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What is hair porosity? Porosity is basically your hairs ability to retain mositure and absorb water and can be measured many different ways. One of the easiest ways you can measure your porosity level at home is by conducting a “Float test.”

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1. Simply take a few strands of hair, preferably freshly washed hair, and place the strands in a glass bowl of room temperature water.

2. If the strand/strands sink to the bottom then you have high porosity hair. If the strand/strands float then you have low porosity hair.

So… you know your hair’s porosity level. What next?

Being aware of your hair’s porosity level helps determine not only what products you should use, but it helps you decide what methods of sealing and maintaining moisture you should include in your regimine.

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I am going to conduct a porosity test tonight on my hair and make a separate post tomorrow. I haven’t done a test in a few months, so I am excited about the results!

Do you know your hairs porosity levels? How important is porosity? Have you done a float test?

Share your thoughts and comments below!

Tata, for now!

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Always remember: You are Fearfully, Wonderfully and “Beautifully mane.”

Where are you on the “Long Healthy Hair Pyramid?”

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How cool is this pyramid? Currently I am working on daily moisture, weekly deep conditioning and monthly protective styling. I am departing from the weave gods soon, but is so cool to look at updos as protective styling as well. Will have to give more updos a try next month. 🙂

Whats your current status on the “Healthy Hair Pyramid?” Do you agree? What would you add/change?

Looking forward to your thoughts and comments below!

Always remember: You are Fearfully, Wonderfully and “Beautifully mane.”