Curly vs. Kinky: Which would YOU prefer?


This appears to be a sensitive topic amongst the natural hair community, and I can totally see why. There is alot of talk and debate surrounding the two hair categories.

Do you think that one curl type is preferred over the other when it comes to the standard of beauty in the black community? While dating? While posting pictures on Instagram, waiting to get a whole bunch of likes?

So a couple days ago, I saw Taren Guy, YouTuber, Owner and CEO of Luv and Learn your Hair, receive a very angry comment on one of her photos regarding her “loose curl patterned long hair” and how she is considered more privileged due to her curlier hair texture.



…Yeah. Somebody’s mad.

Now you guys know me. I see these crazy, controversial posts and comments and it always gets my mind RACING.

Lately, I find that theres alot of debate and discussion amongst the natural hair community on the difference between curly hair and kinky hair and why it matters. Some people prefer the perfect “curl”, or may have some biases in regard to achieving that perfect curl. There are people who love to embrace their “kinky” hair, and others who get OH SO OFFENDED when you call their hair kinky. Personally, I think all hair is beautiful and no I am not trying to be oh so politically correct. We have to get to a place where we love our hair, and we are not ashamed of how it sprouts, whether its coily, wavy, or whatever.

But my thoughts are as such: Whats is the distinction between the two? Are the light skinned, looser curl patterned naturalista’s more privileged than the Type 4 naturals? Why is there so much talk about it, and so much shade? ***Palm trees.

Now, from an informational, technical standpoint, the difference between the two textures is basically, curly hair is simply a spiral or a wave, while kinky hair is an actual twist in which the hair strands turn around itself.


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Now when I first began my natural hair journey, I have to be honest. THE ONLY VLOGGERS I WATCHED WERE THE ONES WITH THE LOOSER CURL PATTERN. No one else. There, I said it. (Please don’t come after me in the comment section LOL)

It wasn’t that I didn’t love my “kinkier”, 4a texture or wanted to explore it. It was simply that I was trying to get my hair to look like someone elses. I was insecure during the beginning stages of my natural hair journey. I wanted it to be curly. I wanted it to be defined. Shoot, I was a new natural and I just wanted my hair to look perfect.

A couple months into my natural hair journey, I began to follow different naturalista’s on Instagram, Twitter and YouTube and noticed how BEAUTIFUL the kinkier textures were. Naturalista’s such as Strawberricurls, Mahogany Curls who is now a Natural Hair expert for Essence magazine and all these beautiful women who embrace their different textures. I started to discover that some people have different curl patterns and textures on one head, while others have the same curl pattern and texture, yet cannot wear different styles, or their hair may break easily. All these sudden realizations and discoveries began to come to the forefront and I am like WHOA. Wait, your natural hair isn’t supposed to be perfect? Say what? Thank God. Now I can finally breathe. LOL

I say all this to say, all hair textures and patterns are indeed beautiful. Please excuse the cliche, but they are.

When we get to a place in our natural hair journey in which we truly embrace that aspect of our natural hair journey, we will be some bad mama jamas. Taking over the world, one “curl” or “kink” at a time.

Hope you found this interesting and of benefit! If you guys have any comments, thoughts, or any ideas of what I should post next, please share your comments below. Make sure to subscribe via email if you haven’t already! ๐Ÿ™‚


Always remember: You are Fearfully, Wonderfully and “Beautifully mane.”


Guess who took their weave out?

Happy Monday, Naturals!

Hope you all are having a FANTASTIC start to your day.

So guess who took their weave out? ME!!!

Photo on 2-3-14 at 8.11 AM #2

Yes, I finally removed my sew in weave and BOY do I feel “re – weaved.” It had been two months since the installation of my sew in to prep for the harsh winter. Im from Detroit and let me tell you, we got TONS of snow and frigid weather. Have you ever heard of wind chills below -10 degrees? Yeah, me neither.

Needless to say, since I knew winter was going to be intense this year, I made sure I was prepared.

When I made the decision of taking out my sew in this weekend, I didn’t know whether or not I should go to a salon, or if I should just watch some YouTube tutorials and do it myself. Well, I did neither. I actually had my younger sister watch some YouTube tutorials instead and she did the honors of removing my weave. Thanks, sissy!

When removing your sew in, all you really need are a pair of styling scissors and PATIENCE. Yes, patience. Removing this installiation is a tedious process, and its very important to take your time.

To remove my sew in, all I did was simply:

1. Separate my hair row by row (preferably start from the back and work your way up, its alot easier). Once you find the row you are going to start with, you secure the rest of the hair with a ponytail holder.

2. I began to search for the thread on the row, pull it out and gently snip.

Again, it is SO important to take your time with this process, and to be careful not to cut your own hair out. Hence why I had my sister do it! You really have to be steady with your hands as well. Sometimes its harder to find the thread when the tracks are loose, usually if the sew in is older.

Once my tracks were removed and my braids were taken a lose, it was time for the wash process.

Because my hair was so dry and brittle, it was important that I made sure to not only clarify my hair, but also restore the moisture using a good deep conditioning treatment.

I decided to start with a pre poo mix – Half Cantu Shea Butter leave – in repair cream and half unrefined coconut oil. I smoothed the mixture on my strands, root to end, and let it penetrate for about 15 minutes. I then proceeded to the shower to shampoo using Trader Joe’s Tea Tree tingle shampoo, giving my hair a good shampoo and scalp massage, making sure I rid of all of the bacteria and build up from the installation.


This shampoo is literally amazing. A must have for a clarifier. It is a sulfate free shampoo, infused with tea tree and peppermint oil. This product gave my scalp a tingling sensation; LITERALLY feeling like a massage and opening up my pores.

After I was all rinsed out, I separated my hair into four sections, securing with hair clips, and began to apply Pantene’s Truly Natural deep conditioner from root to end.



All four sections coated, I wrapped saran wrap around my hair to lock in the moisture and let it penetrate. I do not own a hooded dryer, so I decided to let this sit for approximately 45 minutes. When it comes to deep conditioning, alot of naturals will tell you to make sure to use a hooded dryer when deep conditioning for maximum results, but there are ALWAYS alternatives when you are lacking. Not every tip given is a NECESSITY.

So 45 minutes are up, I went back into the shower and rinsed out the treatment, section by section, sealing coconut oil on my strands immediately after the rinsing. This step is important simply because, I use warm water when rinsing my hair of conditioner and warm water typically lifts your hair shaft, making your hair more susceptible to losing moisture. Sealing in oil makes sure the moisture isn’t completely lost, and making it easier on my strands since my hair was VERY DRY.

I then applied my Cantu Shea Butter leave in and twisted my hair up for bed! Here are the results:

Photo on 2-3-14 at 8.11 AM #3


Photo on 2-3-14 at 8.12 AM #2




My weave journey was a PROCESS, needless to say, but it was worth it. I DEFINITELY noticed some growth.

Would I protective style again? ABSOLUTELY, especially for the winter months. Now the question remains… Box braids or Senagalese twists next? lol ๐Ÿ™‚

Have you recently removed your protective style? How are your treating your hair during these harsh winter months? Share your thoughts and comments below! Always remember: You are Fearfully, Wonderfully and “Beautifully mane.”

Is the term “nappy” offensive?


So I came across a heated twitter discussion ( as always ) a couple weeks ago about the word “nappy”.

The question was, Are you offended when people, whether black, white, hispanic, what have you, use this word to describe African American hair?

Needless to say, there were TONS of very colorful responses. Some thought the term “nappy” is utterly despicable, and should never be used in the English language. Others weren’t as offended by the derogatory term, simply because they “don’t care” or it doesn’t bother them as much.



PERSONALLY… I think the term “nappy” is such a slang term, and we all know it derived from the slave days. “Nappy” was used to describe African American hair that has more of a “coarse”, kinkier texture. In my opinion, it just has such a negative connotation, and RING to it. It sounds gross. Im not a fan of the word.

Naturals, what are your thoughts? Are you offended by the term “nappy”, or does it not bother you? Post your thoughts and comments below!

Always remember: You are Fearfully, Wonderfully and “Beautifully mane.”

Check out this FLY Natural Hair Cuff Bracelet!

Check out this FLY Natural Hair Cuff Bracelet!


Naturals, how F – L – Y is this bracelet?

This accessory is in my opinion, the perfect addition to a Natural Girls accessory collection. Check it out, share your comments below & don’t forget to reblog and follow the fabulous just pearlz by following the link above.

With kinks,


Always remember: You are Fearfully, Wonderfully and “Beautifully mane.”

What are you leaving in 2013, or taking with you in 2014?

Happy Tuesday, Naturals and Lifestyle bloggers!

I cannot BELIEVE that it is New Years Eve already. I don’t know about you, but 2013 really flew by. Literally.

Without making this a super long post, there are many goals that I have in mind to set for the New Year, as well as decisions I am going to make when it comes to my personal relationships, finances, career, and not to mention improving the health of my hair HAIR GROWTH.

Here is a quick look into my goals for the New Year, and then I want to know: “What are you leaving in 2013, or taking with you in 2014? What are your goals? Comment below!”

1. Growing my hair to bra strap lengthย 


Not to mention get one of these shirts! Shirt is awesome. One of my goals is to grow my hair NATURALLY from the current shoulder length it is at now, to bra strap length in 2014. Ill write a post soon on what exactly I plan to incorporate in my wash routines and hair care regimens to attain this goal.

2. Cut off toxic relationships


This year was such a GROWING year for me when it came to building friendships, losing friendships, and even losing someone who I thought was the love of my life ( Link to that post is below, entitled “But, I love you…”). I learned that when you are at a place in your life in which you are GROWING, not everyone can accompany you on that journey, as cliche’ as it may be. Loyalty is extremely rare, and instead of giving people a ton of second chances, I am ready to start giving more FIRST chances and allowing new friendships to blossom… and eventually, a new love. In due time.

3. Get this blog ROLLING!


Naturals and Lifestyle bloggers… Let me tell you. I have been wanting to start a blog for the longest time. Writing and sharing my personal experiences especially when it comes to my hair has been a passion of mine, and I am elated that I chose to embark on this journey, as well as connect with so many other bloggers/vlogger’s out there! Already within three weeks of blogging, I have over 500 followers total that get updates on my blog, over 1500 views and my stats have been booming.

And sidenote: I am working on my first ever professional book review of “God, where is my Boaz?” by Stephan Labossiere. Super pumped, I will make sure to keep you guys posted on that.

I have to say…Yall show SO MUCH LOVE, which is so needed not only in the black community, but just as women and as Natural hair girls. We need that support and those SUPPORTERS, who are like, “You rock, keep it up”, “Never give up”, or “Take that weave out!” like I got in the comment section of my post on whether or not I should keep my weave in. Haha.

You guys are awesome, and I am looking forward to my future with WordPress as a Blogger.

So, thats all she wrote! ๐Ÿ˜‰ Just a few of my goals for 2014. I am SUPER PUMP for the New Year, and for a brand new start in this wild expedition we call “life”.

Now its your turn! Share some of your goals, and comments below. Can’t wait to see what you guys are looking forward to in 2014.

Ta Ta, for now!


With kinks,


Always remember: You are Fearfully, Wonderfully and “Beautifully mane.”

Check out how I let go of a past love. “But, I love you…”

Oldie but Goodie



So yesterday was my wash day! I had all my products organized and layer out, lit my candle, turned on some Yonce’ ( Yes, I am still completely and UTTERLY obsessed with the new B ;)) and I was SUPER PUMP for the washing process.

Yes, I treat my wash days like date nights. Gotta show your hair a little TLC!

Now I had my conditioner and my essential oils ready for when I got out the shower, but I couldn’t seem to locate my shampoo. I began to look all over for a good ten minutes, all in my room and my bathroom and I could not find my shampoo! And I knew I still had some!

After a good 15 minutes of searching, I came to the realization that I had ran out of shampoo… Cue the violins.

I began to panic.

I didn’t want to deal with the hassle of going back out to the store to purchase any shampoo, so I decided to go into the kitchen, dig in the pantry and pull out the old “oldie but goodie”… Apple Cider Vinegar.


Stuff has MAD BENEFITS! Lemme tell you naturals… This stuff is LEGIT. There are a ton of health benefits to it, which you can check out below; but for your hair, it can be used as a clarifying shampoo when mixed with water. Its known to revalitize your hair if your suffer from dullness, or dryness without stripping a ton of oils from your hair. You can pick it up at any local grocery store or health food store… and its MAD cheap.ย 

I chose to use this as a clarifier as I try to clarify my hair at least once a month, simply to get rid of excess product buildup that I may have. Clarifying your hair every month is super important, especially as a “natural” since you don’t want those products that you know and love to stop working for you because of the excess use.

Before I hop into the shower, I took out an applicator bottle and mixed the apple cider vinegar with one part vinegar and one part water. Once you mix the two, simply shake the applicator bottle a bit and you’re good to go.ย 

You can also use a standard old shampoo bottle or whichever tool you would like; the benefit of using the applicator bottle for ME in particular is began I currently have a partial sew in installed. Gotta get to those braids and roots. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Once its applied, I began to simply rub the mix in and massage my scalp, just as I would with a standard shampoo/co- wash, and rinsed it out. Easy as 1, 2, 3. Super organic, gluten free and a great product to use on the regular, or if you’re having a day when you just don’t feel like using an actual shampoo/co- wash.

Just wanted to drop this as a REMINDER to remember the oldie but goodies! Sure, we love our Carols Daughter and Shea Moisture, but the grocery store/health food store products still work just as well. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Please share your comments and thoughts below. If you liked this post, feel free to reblog and share it as a link with your other followers!

You guys have been showing so much love on my page; Naturals, you ROCK! I cannot wait for my future with wordpress as a writer, as well as soon starting vlogs on YouTube of my journey.


Ta Ta, for now!

Always remember: You are Fearfully, Wonderfully and “Beautifully mane.”