Second day hair or nah?

Second day hair or nah?

Happy Monday, naturalista’s!

My Monday started off with waking up this morning and realizing how defined my curls were after rocking a wash and go yesterday. I looked and the mirror and my jaw dropped lol like, whoa! So awesome.

Have you ever had an aha moment during your natural hair journey? Currently? Share your thoughts, comments and stories below!

Always remember: You are Fearfully, Wonderfully and “Beautifully mane.”

The best of Twitter and Instagram during the Scandal Season Premiere

Happy Friday Naturals!

How are you coping with your Scandal hangover? Maybe still shocked by how Mellie and Olivia actually managed to have lunch together, or possible theoretical analyses to WHO THE HECK THAT GIRL WAS Harrison was canoodling with?

Can’t even be mad. We know we wish it were us.

Here a few of the most HILARIOUS memes and tweets from last nights Scandal premiere! Can’t wait until next Thursday.


Mama Pope riding through DC like…

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Black kid would have looked at Quinn like…

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When Mellie gave Olivia that list of eligible bachelors…

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If Mellie told me to date the Rock I so would…

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Yeah, Mellie and Olivia having wine together as a publicity stunt was too cray…

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“Smile, Olivia, The whole world is watching.”

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LOL, “I would run if I were you.” Daddy Pope went HARD! 

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LOL Poor Secretary and her “library undo”.

“Door open”, “DOOR SHUT!”, “Door Open”, “DOOR SHUT!”

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Ok, I’m done. LOL

Share your thoughts and comments below!

Always remember: You are Fearfully, Wonderfully and “Beautifully mane.”

So… I got “Carrie Bradshawed”

How many Sex and The City enthusiasts do we have here? Say I!

So remember when Carrie Bradshaw first met Mr. Big? She was walking down the streets of Manhattan after rekindling an old flame of hers, when Mr. Big bumped right into her in the midst of a crowd, accidentally knocking her purse out of her hand.


Condoms come falling out, she turns BRIGHT red, she is mortified… Mr. Big just looks at her and laughs. He begins to help her gather her “belongings”, and they make an instaneous connection. Spark small conversation. And shortly thereafter, they part ways.

No twitter exchange. No Facebook information exchange. No giving out phone numbers… simply a “Hello, its nice to meet you. You are GORGEOUS, I hope to see you again.”

Where do they do that at, right?

Well apparently they do that in Detroit.

I was roaming the streets of Detroit today… Not on purpose. I got a little lost on my way to a networking event Downtown. It was approximately 6:00 pm; Im walking down Woodward avenue in the freezing cold, trying to mind my own business and act like I don’t have spare change when I begin to feel a presence behind. I turn around fairly quickly, and accidentally bump into this “presence.” Guys, I was so scared. I love my city, but c’mon now. It is Detroit.

Turns out it was a man; as expected. But a very nice, tall, business professional handsome man.

His name was James… He began to tell me how beautiful I looked. He took his glove off to shake my hand, and ended up escorting me to my destination, all while asking me all sorts of questions about myself. All I could think is “Okay, when is he going to ask me for my number?” “Watch him ask if he can come in with me” “He’s a nice guy, but I don’t want him to be too forward.”

We reach my destination. Im almost POSITIVE he is going to ask me for my number… My email at least. Im dreading it. And he simply says “Nice to meet you. I really hope to run into you again.”… and we part ways.

Yes. I got Carrie Bradshawed. And I loved every minute.

As women, many times we expect men to be so… forward. And because we are women, we desire the man to chase, which is a beautiful thing. But what does it truly mean for a man to chase? Is he supposed to hunt you down? Is he supposed to be overly aggressive?

Bottom line is… chivalry is not dead. Theres still some pretty nice gentleman out there.

Just some food for thought.

Remember, you are Fearfully, Wonderfully and “Beautifully mane.” 🙂

Natural vs. Relaxed: Do natural hair girls know more about African American history?

So, I was on twitter a couple of weeks ago, and I came across some pretty opinionated, debatable tweets by one of twitters personalities, @NelsonEmpowered.
Interesting, right. Reading these tweets got me thinking; Are natural hair girls more knowledagable of their history and their roots? Does this mean that women who prefer relaxing their hair less knowledgable, if knowledgable at all? Whats the deal with all this HAIR?
Hair, especially black hair is so controversial in todays society. It has so much HISTORY,   which as a result, contains a lot of sensitivity. Dermatological research (see Browne, 2006; Loussouarn and Rawadi et al., 2005; McMichael, 2003; 2007; Wolfram, 2003) has shown that we are all born with approximately 150,000 hair follicles on the scalp but when it comes down to it, not all hair is created the same. Visually, black hair is thicker, curlier, and often frizzier as compared to Caucasian and Asian hair. And, from a grooming standpoint, it is also more sensitive to excessive manipulation, requiring a different set of styling techniques.
In 15th century Africa, hairstyles were worn to symbolize a person’s marital status, age, religion, ethnic identity, wealth and rank within the community.
In slavery days, hair became more a matter of the labour that you were forced to do on a daily basis. For example, field slaves often times hid their hair from others, whereas house slaves were required to wear wigs similar to their slave owners, who also wore wigs during this period in time.
In the early 1900s, Madam C.J. Walker received a patent for developing the “hot comb” also known as a “pressing comb”. Y’all know all about the hot comb, when you had to sit in-between your mama’s legs as she greased your scalp prior.
This was the first hair tool of its kind to actually be marketed by a black woman to other black women, and it TOTALLY changed the hair game. Madam CJ Walker became the nations first black millionaire and now, black hair care products make up almost $10 billion in the industry, according to industry data.
 Once the straightened hair was exposed to moisture, however, it would revert back to its original state. In the 1960s, George E. Johnson’s chemical straightener, also known as a “relaxer” was introduced and positioned as a less damaging product to the hair and scalp; it was a more convenient way to straighten hair since it could be applied at home and it was more permanent – only requiring re-application every two to three months. Today, it is estimated that 70% to 80% of black women chemically straighten their hair.
Even growing up, whether you grew up in the 80s or the 90s, as a young lady, if your hair wasn’t right? You would get talked about, stomped upon, almost as if your hair was who you WERE. Its kind of symbolic and representative of the slave days, if you really think about it.
We all know of the recent incident with 12 year old Florida girl Vanessa VanDyke, whom was threatened to be expelled from her private school if she didn’t cut or straighten her hair to avoid being a “distraction.” ImageImage
Still appalled by that story, but news stories share she has been welcome back to her school. Thank God.
So the question remains: Whether relaxed, straight, curly, wavy, kinky or doily… How does our hair correlate with black history? Why does our hair even have anything to do with black history? Is one party more knowledgeable than the other, or is this just more likely to create division?
Its been my experience that our experiences are what shape our reality. I have had instances in which I have ran into plenty of natural hair girls, whom not only are more knowledgable of their history and where they came from, but they are more apt to embrace it. I have talked to plenty of relaxed girls as well whom are JUST as knowledgable… yet they are hesitant to truly embrace their heritage when it comes to letting their kinks and coils let free reign. Why?
Ask yourself this question: Am I my hair? Does my hair define who I am, or does it add value to who I am or who I desire to be? 
I would encourage you to challenge yourself. Whether natural, relaxed, straight or wavy, to truly look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself those questions above. What does my hair say about me? Does it determine whether I will have a job? Does it determine whether or not I will have a man? Does it make me who I am, or do I make ME who I am?
This topic is so controversial in todays hair world; just thought I would touch on it. Thanks guys!
Also, make sure to follow twitter personality @NelsonEmpowered. He is a TRUE Natural hair advocate. Nice to see the men reppin’ for us!
Always remember: You are fearfully, wonderfully and “Beautifully mane.” 🙂